Obsession with the female body….be who you are…accept your cellulite!
From January 1st, the hype is on to change who you are. Diet programs fill the airways. Every ad shows a woman who is trim…or even in the modeling world… sometimes anorexic. It is an understatement to say that women’s bodies are totally different from that of men’s. They are curvy…and every curve has a reason. Yes, a reason!
Since the beginning of time and the family, the breast is for nursing a baby. The breast has become a visual sex object in more than just intimacy between loving couples or a mother and a child. Go no further than the Hollywood red carpet. Almost every dress exposes the cleavage down to the naval. Which brings us to the hips and back-side which they are also showing quite regularly. The width of the hips is actually to be able to give birth more easily. Try getting a 10 pound baby out of a narrow hip….oh the pain! God knew what He was doing when He molded the female hip, believe me!
Are you a woman whose weight or curves bother you? We are not talking about being obese for we know that this is totally unhealthy. However, you can have some lumps and bulges and still be active and at your best self.
Remember the time when an expectant mother wore big floppy dresses to cover the little bundle growing inside herself? Now expectant mothers carry their little “watermelon” proudly in front of themselves. Society has changed about this issue. Now it is time to make some changes in attitudes about real women and their bodies as well as living a long life.
What are young girls learning from their role models…whether it is their own parent…a rock star….model or others that they see on TV? Some of the children’s books that I have written have to do with self-confidence and self-esteem. We know that young girls go through bullying and ostracism from their peers because they are not rail thin like the models they see everywhere they look…TV, books, magazines, ads, video games, or movies. This is hurtful and our society needs to discuss and embrace real people and who they are. No one, adult, teen or child….male or female needs to feel less important or unattractive…because they are measured by such an unfair standard. All societies have their own standards of beauty and acceptance. Look no further than certain women in Africa whose lips are their status…and not their hips.
It is time for women …of all ages to claim themselves. Heredity makes a difference in who we are…and our genes will not change. If your mother or grandmother was a curvaceous woman…then it is likely that you will be also. If they were thin…most likely you will be too. Of course diet plays a part as we all know. Whoever we are, we must learn to accept ourselves…or we will never be happy. Eat right; exercise…even if just a walk each day…and be your best.(A side-note here: If you know a good looking young man who is considering male modeling, they need to look up the term and video on “manorexia” in men that is life-threatening. Other less known, but very prevalent is ENDOS which is also an eating disorder with grave consequences primarily found among young women. )
This video below is worth watching…and you don’t have to blind-fold your husbands or the men in your life. It is how a young girl could have lost her life as she entered the modeling profession. Today she is her normal self and is considered a plus size model at her best. Of course, a size 12 may not seem “plus” to most of us, but it is in the fashion industry. She may have little cellulose but is now a real woman who can eat and be happy.
Highly recommended for a parent to watch with a teen girl.
(Click onto You Tube as directed for full interview. )