N.W.BOYER…Christian Author

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What Would Mary Do?

Christmas is often called the “Most Wonderful Time of the Year.”  This may be because when the Virgin Mary gave birth to the Savior, the world looked for many things to be made right through a strong leader.  Most believed that the Messiah would bring peace and a new world order.  He would come in glory to accomplish this task.

How disappointing for those who refused the humble birth.  How could it possibly be?   Yet, God’s ways are mostly not our ways.  He chooses to accomplish His purposes even if they do not fit what we expect.

We often hear the question, “What would Jesus do?”  As we look to Him for our daily answers to human problems, we are looking for a man’s point of view…even a Holy, Incarnate Man as He was.   My question in this blog post is different.  What would the Mother of the Son of God do?  

This woman, who was young, was told by an angel a shocking message for her and her fiance, Joseph.

“In the sixth month, God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth, a town in Galilee, to a virgin pledged to be married to a man named Joseph, a descendant of David. The virgin’s name was Mary. The angel went to her and said, ‘Greetings, you who are highly favored!”

The Gospel of Luke says that the angel Gabriel came to Mary to tell her that she would give birth to a son. The angel told Mary that she should call her son Jesus. The angel also said that Jesus would save people from their sins. Mary asked the angel how she could be pregnant since she was a virgin.

Then the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God. Behold, you will conceive in your womb and bear a son, and you shall name him Jesus.”

 

After the birth, the angel appeared again:

An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. But the angel said to them, ‘Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. Today in the town of David a Saviour has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord.

 

Mary, like any Mother, watched her Son, Jesus grow and learn.  She was there when he performed miracles and saw him be betrayed and given into the hands of those who would crucify him.  Her sorrows were practically more than she could endure.

 

The Ressurection and the Ascending into heaven by her Son followed as part of her life. Throughout it all, this woman knew that God was in control.

So…back to the question...If Mary had to face some of the family sorrows that we face today, what would she do?   We think of this perfect Mother, highly venerated, who would do no wrong.  Yet, she was as human as any of us.  Would she advise us to look at the Holy Scriptures when the father waited and waited for his son who had left home?  Would she say to never give up hope? Would she point to this father (and perhaps a waiting mother) who finally saw his prodigal son coming from afar who had seen the error of his ways?

Would she have forgiven when children neglected their older parents and simply be grateful for those who are loving and caring, like her Son who asked a disciple to care for her as he died on the cross?  Does this mean that a person not a member of the immediate family might be more caring and loving than the blood relation?

When Jesus saw his mother, and the disciple whom he loved standing near, he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, your son!” Then he said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother!” And from that hour the disciple took her to his own home. (John 19:26-27)

All these are hard questions, but as a Mother, she would understand things from a woman’s (and Mother’s) point of view.

Even the first miracle that Christ performed had to do with a problem of a social nature. At the wedding in Cana, Mary was concerned about the fact that the hosts had run out of wine. Jesus felt that His time to reveal His power or that He was the Messiah had not come, but He listened to His Mother’s request for help. He turned the water into wine, which the guests realized to be the best wine. Mary knew Jesus’ power to step into the lives of others in small or great issues. He also wants the best for us regardless of the circumstances.

You may also have some questions for Mary if you could speak to the Mother of the Savior and if she could hear you from heaven.  I certainly do. Here is what Mary would do and say… “Take it to Jesus for it is in Him that God with the Holy Spirit answers prayers. He is the beloved Son of God.”

 

Life is complicated for so many of us. We pray that at this time when we see the beautiful pictures or works of art representing the Mother and Child that we will remember that her faith was strong and unwavering. Her pain was real and so was her joy as she trusted in God to work through the events that seemed beyond help.

Happy New Year from Boyer Writes.

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Coming Home is Hard to Do

Family members are the ones who know us best.  There are often things that break families apart…even if it is not understood why.   There could have been arguments or no argument at all.  A decision was made to walk away…to go a different direction.  Sometimes it is through the influence of others…or a decision is made by the one member who decides to leave.   Whatever the reason…coming home is a difficult thing to do.  It means facing the people that we have loved the most in the past.  It may even be hard for those who were left.  To take the step to go home again may be like a bitter pill.  Swallowing the pill of the unknown…the hope for acceptance…or the possibility of rejection is even harder.  We are human and we don’t like to admit we made poor decisions.  We are also told that “forgiveness is divine.”

Someone reading my blog today is saying to his/herself that this sounds like my situation.  You either have a person who has left you…or you have left those who love and know you the best.  Life will go on even if you decide to never face your family again, but is it really what you want?   Will you never know the warm embrace that is there waiting for you?  The longer time goes on and you walk away in your mind and heart, will you ever have another chance?

 

Is it worth it to pick up the phone, show up at the door, or write a letter to those you have left behind?  You may not really know how much it would mean to even one person that was always a part of your life. You may have never left your family, but have someone that you have avoided or have not spoken to in years. Reconciliation is a word not often used, but a very important word. Only peace and happiness can come when there is reconciliation.

Only you can decide.  God will give you the courage if it is a “Yes”…and He will weep  tears along with yours on the lonely nights if your decision is “NO”…but weep you will.  Eventually weeping is assured because no one will force you to do anything you do not want to do…not even God.

In the Holy Scriptures, the Prodigal Son’s father did not run after the child he loved, but allowed him to leave and waited patiently until he finally saw the familiar figure approaching him from afar.  His joy could not be contained!   Who is waiting for you?

 

The video below shares not only the beautiful music of the choir, but a message within its drama.  No, it’s not Christmas as the video indicates, but your decision may be the best present ever.

people hugging

 

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