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Growing Older…Yes, WE ALL ARE!

Back in February I posted this blog.  This would be before the virus hit and we all wondered if we would indeed get any older. Now, I have come to believe that there is sunshine at the end of the storm.  Hospitals are announcing fewer cases and except for the political agendas, people seem to be on the move.  An agent whom we know said that they just can’t keep up with the number of houses being bought…so someone is expecting to live in them or sell them again in some future time.  ALL THIS LOOKS LIKE A GOOD “GROWING OLDER” possibility.

So let’s talk about this new optimistic view by looking back at what I wrote in February.  The only real difference that I can see is the really close contact and the tragedy of the elderly dying alone in a nursing facility. That breaks my heart!

“Everything in advertisement these days is how to stay young and beautiful.  Who wouldn’t want to do that?!  Well, not so fast, perhaps those that have lived a good, long life have a few things to say about aging. We will explore the subject that no one wants to write about, talk about, or experience…aging.  We all grow a little older each day…each hour…each minute.  Some tell it better with the graying of the hair, a larger mid-waist, or a few wrinkles…or alot as the case may be.

I live in Florida and all the billboards for senior living look like this:

or this:

All are always having so much fun!!   Frankly, I’d rather find a good bench and enjoy the view with my special person!

NEVER would a billboard show the other side of aging…a woman alone with few if any relatives near by.

 Yet,  many older people are finding a life filled with wonderful memories and FEW, if any regrets about their lives.

  It is not all downhill as some would like to think.

The funny thing, however, is that we rarely think of ourselves as getting older.

You notice that I never say OLD, but OLDER because it is the natural part of life for everyone…from crib to the knee replacement!

THE AGING PROCESS

Devotional Books 4 and 5 have been published since February.   Hopefully, you will want to read one of them:   Rain on the Roof.  and  Faith

I’d like to share a portion of one chapter which relates to this topic of growing older:

“What exactly is the meaning of “grace” or doing something with “grace”?” We would all like to think that we can be that kind of person when it comes to seeing our lives slide away and we can begin a possible countdown on two hands. There are those who might make it to the 100 mark, but the quality of life in these people is usually limited. There are exceptions, however. Some Centenarians have some real words of wisdom for all of us.

One man said, “I enjoy robbing the government by continuing to get my pension!” Another Centenarian said about getting older and reaching 100, “It is only a number. You live for the day and a little shot of whiskey occasionally helps,” he said with a smile.

Fond memories seem to play a great part of enjoying the end of life. We all have the heartaches, but it is the happy times that we can and should reflect upon. Building another good memory at any age is the key. It is a great thing to be able to say, “I really did so many things, knew so many people and I believe I mostly did everything that I wanted to do.”

If you are growing older, it is not only the physical body that begins to become more frail, but the mind and emotions can also take a toll. Some of this is genetic or poor health or a disease that is not avoidable. Nevertheless, for those of us who are fortunate enough not to have some of these disabilities, it is up to us to feed the brain with optimism and good thoughts. It is too easy to complain or become “an old fogy” that no one wants to be around or that is old-fashioned or intellectually dull.

Doing the things that make us happy is most important as we age…whether that is writing, as I do, or watering a beautiful flower that has been grown and nurtured by your own hands.

An English lady maintains her wonderful memories of her family as if they are all still around her. With a laugh, she says that sometimes people will hear her talking to herself…but it isn’t really to herself…but to the children that she remembers and cared for through their lives. “They think I am crackers when I talk to myself, but I’m not…just remember the ones I love.”

If you have been in a nursing home for the aged, it is quite depressing, at times, to see so many elderly sitting and doing nothing. Often they are sleeping from medication given to them that can take away quality of life. This is when an advocate is so important to keep watch over a parent or grandparent who may not be able to fend for themselves when it comes to care. Years ago, the elderly stayed in the home of the children until their death. Because of this, they had someone with them who truly cared about them and their welfare. How important it is to speak to those sitting in the Assisted Living facilities and let them know that they are recognized as a special person who has lived a very long life. Each of them have stories to tell if we will take time to listen.

Taking time to listen is exactly why my husband and I interviewed veterans of past wars to write their stories in the book, Men and Women of Valor in the Blue Ridge.   Most had never had an interview and were most appreciative to know that the service they gave to their country would live on in a book. This was especially true of an elderly man who fought in Korea with frozen feet. His miracle was that just before surgery to remove his legs, the blood flow came back. Our veterans are quickly passing away, as are the Holocaust survivors of World War II. With grace, many have shared their lives and stories of courage with us. In our present day, those who now sit in wheelchairs, will soon be gone from us. Some have made the trip back to the places where so much happened in their lives to preserve freedom for future generations. Never forget to thank them “for their service.”

Asked if the Centenarians “have any regrets,” most had only a few. Some wished that they had told someone they loved them more or worked harder at a vocation. Time moves swiftly as we grow older. We look back at a full-time career, a number of children in the home, pets to care for and after retirement it is hard to imagine how we fit all that into one 24 hour day! We should want to live those hours as gracefully as possible at any age.

The word ‘grace’ literally means ‘favour.’ In Hebrew, it is CHEN from a root word CHANAN – to bend or stoop in kindness to another.
In Greek it is CHARIS and has the idea of graciousness in manner or action. It comes from a root word CHAIRO to be cheerful, happy. 31

Perhaps this is the key to those who have lived life longer than most…to accept each day with gratefulness and cheerfulness. It is a lesson for all of us to learn to live in GRACE.

On a spiritual level, it is to LIVE and MOVE and have our being (or EXISTENCE). Acts 17:28 It is the GRACE of God that saves us.”   N.W. BOYER

It spite of illness, in spite even of the arch-enemy sorrow,one can remain alive long past the usual date of disintegration if one is unafraid of change,insatiable in intellectual curiosity, interested in big things, and happy in a small way.   Quote by Edith Wharton (An American novelist and the first woman to win the Pulitzer Prize for Literature in 1921.)

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Recently I received an email from a reader of this particular blog on Growing Older.  What she wrote to me was so impressive that I asked permission to reprint it here for my readers.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

“Hi, Nancy!  This was great.  It reminded me of my job in Portland, Oregon where I was an Activities Director for an assisted living facility.   I had to get my certification from Portland State and I learned a lot about geriatrics!  The state required that I provide activities for spiritual needs, physical, creative, educational, and social activities.  It was quite a challenge  I had 97 residents and I was the only activities person.  The nurses were nice enough to help those who were not ambulatory to take them to the activity.  I had a “Fit & Fun” class where we exercised to the 1940’s music (they especially liked the Andrews Sisters); I had a Chorus, and a band, we gave concerts to the families.  I did educational things like picking a country and showing a 30 minute video about it and before that, I would make some food for them from that country and talk about it for a while—plus I had “happy hour” and music playing on Fridays,  and I had a tea party for the ladies (Steve came and played the recorder for them)  with lace tablecloths and china tea cups—I had slide shows…and ministers/priests/ and Jewish people come in and offer services.   I loved that job so much!  It was great fun.  Steve called me a “paid party-girl”.    😊 

Working with elders was wonderful.  Funny…too.  “Good morning, Claire, how are you this morning?”  Claire replied, “Well, let’s see…I woke up…I was able to eat breakfast…and I could go to the bathroom…It’s goin’ to be a great day!”   You never know… I have so many stories. 

My favorite was Vera.  She had Alzheimer’s, couldn’t walk on her own, and had trouble communicating.  I found out that she used to play the piano.  So one day, I wheeled Vera in front of this grand piano and then I sat down at a nearby table.  She looked at me…and looked around…and looked at me again…and looked at the piano…then played a beautiful rendition of  “Moonlight Sonata”.  I nearly fell over.  I ran to get the nurse to show her!  Wow.   After she finished—I took her back to her room and she fell asleep.  She didn’t say a word.

Another favorite was Violet.  Again Alzheimer’s –about 3rd stage.  She was walking on her own.  Wore everything in her closet (we were careful not to have much in there)…needed assistance to be seated because she didn’t know where to sit.  She had trouble talking but she babbled anyway.  I heard that she used to be a secretary for 45 years.  One evening, while she was eating dinner in the dining room, I took a chance and wrote on a piece of paper in Gregg shorthand “How are you today, Violet? ”.   Then I left the paper there with the pencil and watched her from the other part of the room.  It took a while…she looked at it, then ate some more and looked at it again, picked up the pencil and scratched something.  After she left, I went and got the paper… it said, in Gregg shorthand… “I am fine today, thank you.”  

When I think of being older…I think of miracles. Those that have happened, and those that have not happened just yet.  I’m training my mind to be positive, and grateful.  It’s working. 😊 Your wonderful story just added to that!”

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ENJOY YOUR LIFE…IT IS THE ONLY ONE YOU HAVE…and the sun is still shining!

VIDEO  Turn up sound  Interesting thoughts from some who made it to 100 years old…and still enjoying life.


Eternal Promise

It seems that each night in the news, the reporters not only bring the devastating news of the sick and dying, but also show the large refrigerated trucks that are lined outside the largest hospitals.  There is certainly no assurance in seeing these trucks. The public knows that those who die must also be taken care of in some orderly way.    Yet, we see it over and over…and we are made to feel even more concerned about our own safety…whether in life or death.    The heart-breaking stories of loved ones who can not be with their families in their last moments on earth is almost too much to hear.

Sometimes it is good emotionally, to remove ourselves, at least temporarily, from the continuous news of despair.  Perhaps this Sunday is a good time for quiet music instead

or as we turn to our TV to listen to remote worship services.

(We have enjoyed the National Cathedral services in Washington, D.C. at 11:15 EST and special music at 4 on YouTube)

So what or who can we turn to in this time of waiting and confinement?   I’d like to share with you, and the ones you may know who have family members who are sick or who have died,  my writing, in part, on the ETERNAL PROMISE:

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The word “eternity” seems so far away. It is an unknown time or place and the human mind can’t comprehend its actual meaning. Most people have some anxiety about dying and perfect peace may not be part of their thinking on this subject.

It may not be just about entering eternity, but needing peace when making some of life’s greatest decisions. This was true of Bob Dufford as he struggled with his becoming a priest. He thought of the Mother of Christ, who may have been fearful as she followed what God had in store for her. This gave him inspiration to write these words:

Be Not Afraid

You shall cross the barren desert, but you shall not die of thirst.
You shall wander far in safety though you do not know the way.
You shall speak your words in foreign lands and all will understand.
You shall see the face of God and live.


If you pass through raging waters in the sea, you shall not drown.
If you walk amid the burning flames, you shall not be harmed.
If you stand before the pow’r of hell and death is at your side,
know that I am with you through it all.

Blessed are your poor, for the kingdom shall be theirs.
Blest are you that weep and mourn, for one day you shall laugh.
And if wicked men insult and hate you all because of me,
blessed, blessed are you!

Chorus:
Be not afraid.
I go before you always;
Come follow me,
and I will give you rest.
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Promises are made and many times broken because we are frail in our human spirit. No bride or groom goes to the alter believing that their lives will come shattering down with a divorce. Little children may say, ” Please let’s go today. Will you promise?” Sometimes the parent must change the plans, but somehow in a child’s mind the promise has been broken. This is why they beg us to “promise.”

There is an eternal promise that will never be broken. It is God’s promise that all will be well in eternity. He is going to make a special place for us. He even says that he is telling us the truth. “There are many rooms in my Father’s house, and I am going to prepare a place for you. I would not tell you this if it were not so”. John 14:2

The Holy Bible is made up of many eternal promises. Some people memorize these verses. It is a good idea because what you hide in your heart can never be taken away from you. A few of these are listed below, but only make a dent in what we can believe from God in the Holy Scriptures:

 

  •  Psalm 100:5 For the Lord is good and his love endures forever; his faithfulness continues through all generations.
  •  James 1:17 Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.
  •  2 Samuel 7:28 Sovereign Lord, you are God! Your covenant is trustworthy, and you have promised these good things to your servant.
  •   Nahum 1:7 The Lord is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him.
  • John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son that whosoever believes in Him, shall not perish, but have everlasting life.

…There is an old hymn, Standing on the Promises, that was written by Russell Kelso Carter. This hymn was published in the book Promises of Perfect Love, Philadelphia, 1886

Some of the words are these:

Standing on the promises that cannot fail,
When the howling storms of doubt and fear assail,
By the living Word of God I shall prevail,
  Standing on the promises of God.

Standing on the promises I now can see
Perfect, present cleansing in the blood for me;
Standing in the liberty where Christ makes free,
  Standing on the promises of God.

Standing on the promises of Christ the Lord,
Bound to Him eternally by love’s strong cord,
Overcoming daily with the Spirit’s sword,
  Standing on the promises of God.

We have the eternal promises of God to lead us through our lives. His promises are true and will never fail. May God be praised!

HOLY SCRIPTURES: Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the LORD, who has compassion on you. Isaiah 54:10

PRAYER: Thank you, God, for your promises. I trust in You and pray for all those going through our difficult times . In Christ’s name, Amen

(Taken from Rain on the Roof by N.W.Boyer)

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Christ has given His life for Us, Rose from the Dead and promised us eternal life.  Where there is suffering, we turn to Him as OUR VISION of HOPE.   Below is a video of a church and a singer, with his accompanist.  The church is empty…as are ours today, but the promises of God are the same and He is with us wherever we are.

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